Think of me, babe, whenever
Some sweet talkin’ girl comes along
Singin’ his song, don’t mess around
You just got to be strong Just stop, ’cause I really love you
Stop, I’ll be thinking of you
Look in my heart
And let love keep us together
Do you remember that song from the 70′s sung by the Captain and Tennille?
When I was a young girl, I played my 45 single record over and over and over again until I almost wore it out. I think I wore my family out, too.
For some reason that song started playing in my head today. It made me giggle a little when I thought of it because I decided that love will have to be the thing that keeps us (Mr. Longhorn and me) together through this kitchen project. Because, friends, I’m afraid we’re getting on each other’s nerves just a little bit.
Just stop, ’cause I really love you Stop, I’ll be thinkin’ of you Look in my heart And let love keep us together, whateverBefore you think things are seriously bad around here, let me assure you that we’re really just in the place where most of us married people find ourselves when two people approach things differently.
I wonder why he can’t just go with the flow or make up his mind or do things when I want him to do things. And, most especially, why can’t he just see things exactly the way I see them? Things would be so much easier.
(I’m sure he has his own laundry list about me, but this is my blog, not his, so you’ll get my version! Ha!)
The frustration level hit a new high this week when we bought two slabs of the most gorgeous marble and it was kind of an impulse buy. Kind of. (Did I mention that Mr. L. is the opposite of an impulse shopper?)
You see, we weren’t going to change our counter tops. But, the woman we hired to help us update the kitchen doesn’t like our existing granite and she was encouraging us to change it. We were open to the idea if it didn’t throw us too far over budget so we did some shopping.
On our third visit to a stone place we saw this beautiful calcutta green marble that was on a special buy — 50% off. Whoa!
Despite the great deal, it was still a big hit to the budget. And, we had to make a super quick decision because others were clamoring for those slabs and we were first in line.
After a lot of discussion we both agreed to move forward and the next morning we wrote a check and the slabs were ours.
That’s when Mr. L. started freaking out a little. He started worrying about all of the expenses and how did we get here?! !
Deep breath.
Things have calmed down now.
He’s feeling better about everything, I’m feeling better and we’ve managed to make the other big ticket decisions (appliances) without further stress. Now we are just waiting for things to arrive so the real work can be done (painting, cabinet work, etc.).
I’ve taken a few deep breaths and practiced a yoga pose or two and now I’m singing to myself:
I will, be there to share forever Love will keep us together I said it before and I’ll say it again While others pretend I need you now and I need you then Just stop, ’cause I really love you Stop, I’ll be thinking of you Look in my heart And let love keep us together, whateverAfter all, it’s not life or death…it’s just a kitchen.
Ohmygosh Julie, so funny! I’ll be singing that song all day now
Your kitchen is going to be amazing, and I am super envious of your gorgeous marble! We need to catch up, I haven’t been very good about keeping up with everyone. Hope you guys are doing well, and ready for a fun summer! xoxo, Andrea
Thank you, Andrea! I’m excited and nervous about our kitchen. I’m so tired of thinking about it and second guessing all of our choices…I’m hoping it will all be worth it!
We need to plan another get-together soon!
Wow that brings back memories! Not just the song either! Three years ago we completely remodeled our house. Gutted every room. The first room was our tiny master bath. The day of demo my husband was playing golf and when he got home I was so happy to show him what the contractor had done to the bathroom it was all down to studs and pipes. My husband had a complete freak out meltdown. Does he know what he’s doing? What if he doesn’t? What if we can’t afford this? We haven’t picked out tile yet! We had been married 25 years and I had never seen him that way! It was crazy. Of course he finally calmed down but each step was agony for him. I found out that he struggles with a bit of anxiety:) He loves everything we did and I let him have full reign on most decisions. I have black appliances now as opposed to stainless but it wasn’t worth a divorce! I learned a lot about myself during that process too and our marriage is better than ever. When I see those black appliances, I see a gesture of love toward my husband and he has no idea I really preferred something else. In fact when I look at my kitchen now, I can’t imagine anything else.
By the way I love the marble you chose! Can’t for it to all come together! Deep cleansing breaths!
So glad to hear I’m not alone! Funny how you can agree to spend a certain amount and then when you actually do it all kinds of freaking out happens! lol It’s so wonderful that you were able to allow your husbands decisions to be true acts of love and that you’re not resentful. Your kitchen turned out absolutely lovely and I’m sure you are so happy you were able to do it!
Can’t wait for the kitchen reveal! Hang in there with your “Captain”. Just like with those two I bet I know who is really in charge!
Oh man!! We redid our kitchen in Oklahoma shortly before we moved. We changed out the counters from a solid surface to granite. It’s hard to pick! I didn’t have a complete picture in my mind of what I wanted and Paul wanted dark. We ended up with something pretty dark….it was pretty but I wouldn’t do it again. There are so many decisions to be made in a project like that. Can’t wait to see how it turns out because you have great taste and y’all work well together.
Now I have to tell you, did you know Captain and Tenille got divorced recently? LOL.